By the Way: Do not be a coward
By ROLAND WEISBROT on August 12, 2023.
One of the problems with our human race is our tendency to take the easy way out. When we have an issue with someone it is far easier for us to avoid them and not confront them about it. Worse yet, instead of confronting the person who we have an issue with, many of us just choose to complain about them to others. Given how prevalent this problem is, I am sure everyone reading this has been both the one doing this to someone else, or the one on the receiving end of this imprudent behaviour. How much easier would it have been if you just tried to talk it out (at least in cases where the person you need to confront is somewhat reasonable)? After all, this is what Jesus tells us to do in Matthew 18:15-17. As believers, if we have an issue with someone, we are to go to them first. Only after that fails are we supposed to involve other people. Now, obviously, this is not an easy thing to do, but it is necessary. We all know that gossip and talking behind a person’s back is toxic and destructive to relationships and community. In the church setting, such behaviour can cause serious divisions which are not easy to heal. If you take Scripture seriously, and you understand your responsibility as a Christian to “love your neighbour as yourself,” then you will not shy away from the hard part of any relationship: healthy, appropriate, and respectful confrontation. After all, do you like when people speak behind your back rather than taking their issue directly to you? I think not! So, my friends, for the sake of your soul, your relationships, and your church community, do not be a coward. Pastor Roland Weisbrot is the Lead Pastor of Victory Lutheran Church 11-10
