To Your Health: Don’t get stressed out by the hustle and bustle of the season
By Gillian Slade on December 17, 2018.
For many people Christmas is a season of excitement while others struggle with memories of loved ones who have left a void. There are also those who feel an overwhelming sense of despair about the preparations, expectations and family gatherings. While there are all sorts of expectations put on us it is really up to us to decide whether we will be dictated to by those or play by our own rules. That could mean less stress, more goodwill, and ultimately be better for our health too. We don’t have to conform to other peoples’ expectations. It is fine to enjoy a low-key Christmas and you don’t need to apologize to anyone for doing so. In fact very high expectations can set us up for failure, leaving us with a sense of failure. If you feel you can only rise to the occasion for one event then plan on making that your goal and congratulate yourself on that accomplishment. If you know that family gatherings for you are often fraught with tension it helps to plan a strategy ahead of time. You may need to limit how long you spend at the event. If that is not possible then plan to take a break for a long walk during the gathering. That walk will allow you to get some physical exercise, reduce stress and remove yourself from the tension for a little while. It is worth remembering that the most treasured gifts actually have no financial cost. I’m talking about those handwritten notes telling someone how much they mean to you as a friend, as someone you can to talk to freely, or a happy memory you associate with them, and the attributes you admire in them. For a family member it could be all the things you love about them. There are mental health rewards, when you focus on the positives in those around you, as you write those notes. It is affirmation of the wonderful people you are surrounded by. Keep your meals simple and wholesome. Try to prepare things ahead on time and involve family members in the process. Some of my happiest memories are times spent with my mother in the kitchen as she allowed me to stand on a little stool and stir the batter or whip the frosting for a cake. There were times when I used too much red colouring and produced a shocking pink cake but even that memory is sweet. You’re actually planting the seeds of healthy eating by establishing a tradition of simple home-cooked meals and treats. These are traditions that are passed from generation to generation rather than the number of fancy dishes that are served at the table. There are also provincial supports available. If you need emergency help to meet basic needs over Christmas you can call 1-866-644-5135. If you are experiencing family violence there is a provincial family violence information line at 310-1818. This number can be called 24/7 and help is available in many different languages. The mental health help line is also available 24/7 at 1-877-302-2642. The child abuse hotline is 1-800-387-5437. Here’s wishing you a Christmas with less stress and here’s To Your Health. To Your Health is a weekly column by Gillian Slade, health reporter for the News, bringing you news on health issues and research from around the world. You can reach her at gslade@medicinehatnews.com or 403-528-8635. 16-15
