All Psyched Up: Marriage prep

By Linda Hancock on November 29, 2025.

This week I again hired the Neat Freaks to help me do some decluttering and we attacked my office files. Interestingly, I found a typed (yes, I said typed) article that states it was taken from a 1950s Home Economics Textbook. The intent of the information apparently was to help high school girls prepare for married life.

See if these ten points would be applicable today:

1. Have dinner ready – Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal – on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare Yourself – Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

3. Clear away clutter – Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.

4. Prepare the children – Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

5. Minimize the noise – At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washing, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Greet him with a warm smile and kiss, letting him know you’re glad to see him.

6. Some DON’TS – Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

7. Make him comfortable – Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lay down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. Listen to him – You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. Make the Evening his – Never complain if he does not take you out for dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

10. The goal – Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.

I will be honest. I read this and thought “I want to be the husband!”

Dr. Linda Hancock, the author of “Life is An Adventure…every step of the way” and “Open for Business Success” is a Registered Psychologist who has a private practice in Calgary. She can be reached by email at office@drlindahancock.com

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