All Psyched Up: Fellowship

By LINDA HANCOCK on July 20, 2024.

Years ago, when I worked in a church in Saskatoon, we had a minister who was in charge of Pastoral Care. We jokingly called him “Shoe leather” because his job was to go from place to place to meet with people.

He was paid to walk and talk!

Sometimes Shoe leather would be at the bed of someone in the hospital.

Sometimes, he would make a home visit. He was “on call” for those who were experiencing crises and would also just make regular rounds to families and individuals who were associated with the church.

But Shoe leather wasn’t the only support for those with needs. All of us were “in the know” about troubles and times for celebration. We were like one big family who cared about and supported each other.

Unfortunately, over the years, many people have strayed away from regular attendance and membership in churches and therefore don’t have some of the social services that churches used to provide.

My family lived right across from the church, and we were there almost every day of the week. That is where we attended CGIT (Canadian Girls in Training), choir practice, and seminars in addition to the Sunday School and services. We often would help out with rummage sales which were like indoor garage sales. People donated “slightly used” clothing and items which were then sold for charity projects.

Back then, weddings and funerals were usually held in the churches as were confirmation classes and church board meetings.

The church was the centre of our social lives.

When I returned to my hometown for my high school reunion a few years ago, it was sad to learn that the congregation couldn’t afford to keep the church doors open but weren’t allowed to close the building because it was designated as a heritage site. What a dilemma!

Today, much of our social interaction is through technology. Instead of having a birthday celebration we merely make a Facebook post of two words: Happy Birthday! Telephone calls are often replaced by short text messages. An email is sent instead of a letter.

I also remember a few years ago when the Pope was speaking to Bishops in the United States. He talked about how individuals go onto the internet to find “friends”. The Pope said, “These are not your friends”. How poignant. They might not even be using their real name and may not have good intentions or commitment to you.

This week, I had two wonderful “Shoe leather” experiences. First of all, I attended the wedding of my eldest grandson in Olds where I got to meet so many people and enjoy reunion with many relatives who live at a distance from my Calgary home.

Then today, a friend and I went to visit another friend where we sat together, shared stories, laughed and prayed for each other.

What wonderful fellowship. The kind you don’t get from a short text or email.

Why not make a point of having a “Shoe leather” experience this week? Who can you visit in person to enjoy peaceful sharing time and build wonderful memories?

Dr. Linda Hancock, the author of “Life is An Adventure…every step of the way” and “Open for Business Success” is a Registered Psychologist who has a private practice in Calgary. She can be reached by email at office@drlindahancock.com

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